Healing the Trauma of Infidelity

“Healing the Trauma of Infidelity is a revealing book that greatly contributes to the affair literature by reframing infidelity as attachment wounds. This practical and lively book blends decades of solid research from attachment and Gottman Method principles into an understandable format, replete with practical case examples and exercises. William Bumberry masterfully helps couples squarely face the pain of betrayal by working together to rebuild love and trust that lasts…. A highly recommended read!” –Patricia Worthey, PhD, Gottman Consultant, Trainer, and Certification Reviewer in private practice in Seattle, WA–Patricia Worthey, PhD“Healing the Trauma of Infidelity is a truly transformative resource that combines profound clinical insights with practical, step-by-step guidance for couples ready to heal after experiencing betrayal. William Bumberry’s compassionate approach and proven strategies provide real hope, making this book an essential companion for anyone seeking to rebuild trust and rediscover intimacy.” –Alessandro Carmelita, psychologist and psychotherapist, cocreator of Mindfulness Interbeing Mirror Therapy, and CEO of Mirror Psychology–Alessandro Carmelita“William Bumberry has gifted the field of couples therapy with this well-designed book that fulfills its promise to be a road map for partners navigating the very challenging terrain of recovery from infidelity. Based on the Gottman Institute’s landmark research on treating affairs, this book provides solace and grounding amidst the chaos of betrayal. As a couples therapist, I cannot wait to get this hope-giving resource into my clients’ hands!” –Jonathan Shippey, LMFT, MA, MFT, Senior Certified Gottman Therapist, and Advanced Clinical Trainer with the Gottman Institute–Jonathan Shippey, LMFT, MA, MFT“William Bumberry is an outstanding clinician who has written a sensitive, attuned, and hopeful book on recovering from betrayal. His ability to understand the pain of both partners in the aftermath of infidelity shines throughout the book. I plan to recommend this book to my couples recovering from infidelity.” –Vagdevi Meunier, PsyD, executive director for The Center for Relationships; and Senior Gottman Therapist, Consultant, and Trainer–Vagdevi Meunier, PsyD“William Bumberry provides a path for healing that is a true treasure to couples facing the devastation of infidelity. He combines the best of Gottman’s research and emotionally focused therapy (EFT)’s attachment depth with his clarity, genuineness, and warmth. Utilizing Bumberry’s wisdom and encouragement, with this book as a guide, couples can come through the recovery process stronger with a growing, enduring love.” –Rebecca Jorgensen, PhD, director of EFT Counseling and Education Center; and cocreator of Building a Lasting Connection Workshop and the Lasting Connection System–Rebecca Jorgensen, PhD“William Bumberry’s Healing the Trauma of Infidelity gets to the roots of healing. Trauma and betrayal are real with infidelity. By following the principles in the book, trauma and betrayal get smaller. They are no longer hitting you in the face each morning, daytime, and evening. Over time, and as you follow the principles of the book, you will see trauma and betrayal in the rearview mirror.” –Rod W. Jeppsen, president and certified sex addiction therapist at Suncrest Counseling, and Certified Gottman Therapist–Rod W. Jeppsen“William Bumberry’s book offers invaluable information about relationships, and a clear road map on how to navigate the challenges of infidelity. It provides understanding and compassion for the trauma of infidelity in addition to tools and exercises that can help you on your journey to healing. I recommend this book to anyone struggling with the intense emotional pain and devastating impact of an affair.” –Kimberly Panganiban, MA, LMFT, founder and owner of Panganiban Therapy, Inc; and Certified Gottman Therapist, Trainer, and Consultant–Kimberly Panganiban, MA, LMFT“William Bumberry’s compassion and kind wisdom is offered directly to those impacted by relationship betrayal. He grabs you from the start, engages you throughout, and guides you on a referenced path to solid recovery while continually respecting your choice to stay or leave your relationship. If you stay, you’ll not just recover but will enrich your relationship beyond what you may think is possible. Read it! You’ll be glad you did.” –Lynda Voorhees Davis, LMFT (SD # 11514), retired psychotherapist in private practice; Certified Gottman Therapist, Consultant, and Certification Reviewer–Lynda Voorhees Davis, LMFT (SD # 11514)“William Bumberry’s methods and exercises for healing from infidelity provide hope and direction on the path toward greater trust and connection. Couples seeking support through this uncertain time will find peace in the structure and science of rebuilding a relationship after infidelity.” –Laura Heck, LMFT, Certified Gottman Therapist, sex therapist, and coauthor of Reconnect–Laura Heck, LMFT

William M. Bumberry, PhD, is a licensed psychologist with more than twenty-five years’ experience treating couples. He is a Certified Gottman Therapist, Consultant, and Senior Trainer and has been affiliated with the Gottman Institute for more than two decades. He has conducted more than a hundred Gottman professional trainings nationally and internationally, and is passionate about helping clinicians bring the Gottman Method into their life’s work. He is a member of the American Psychological Association. In addition to his expertise in the Gottman Method, Bumberry is certified in emotionally focused therapy (EFT). He is coauthor of Dancing with the Family and Reshaping Family Relationships. He has a couples-based private practice in St. Louis, MO.

Foreword writer John Flanagan, AMHSW, is partner at the Relationship Institute of Australasia, and principal at Burleigh Heads Psychology and Relationship Clinic. He is a mental health-accredited social worker with a masters in Gestalt therapy, and is an Advanced Clinical Trainer and Consultant with the Gottman Institute.

Foreword writer Trish Purnell-Webb, MPsych(Clin), is partner at the Relationship Institute of Australasia. She is a clinical psychologist, Certified Gottman Therapist, Advanced Clinical Trainer, and Consultant for the Gottman Institute.