The Non-Monogamy Playbook

In a world where our identity, needs and desires are constantly shifting and evolving, Ruby is a reassuring whisper in our ear. Her words encourage us to be bold, to explore, to live a life fantastic. To embrace a sexual psyche that yearns to be unleashed and demands to be seen. It’s a different way of loving, and it’s a rare gift indeed * Anna Richardson, presenter and journalist *Ruby’s voice is an essential antidote to the outdated scripts we were all given for sex and relationships. Warm, relatable, and informed AF, Ruby is the perfect teacher for anyone looking to explore themselves more fully. In fact, she’s the sex ed teacher we all deserved. * Megan Crabbe, Bodyposipanda, bestselling author and presenter *A friendly, approachable, and deeply personal guide to non-monogamous relationships. * Leanne Yau, Poly Philia @polyphiliablog *An absolutely superb introduction to all things non-monogamous. Ruby balances a hugely enjoyable and exuberant writing style with a serious richness of research and depth of questioning. Kind and thoughtful throughout, this is just the book you need wherever you’re at on your own non-monogamy journey. * Meg-John Barker, Author of Rewriting the Rules and How To Understand Your Relationships *Ruby broaches multiple aspects of non-monogamy in an unassuming, compassionate and humorous way, so it feels like you’re learning about non-monogamy from your best friend. It’s easy to become overwhelmed by jargon and complicated nuances in the non-monogamy community. Ruby gives you the information you need in the moment in a really useful and easily understandable way. It’s a great start for people who are brand new to non-monogamy, and even a great refresher for those of us that could use a more caring and delightful voice. * Lola Phoenix, Author of Non-Monogamy Help *What a necessary, exciting and thrilling book. I kept exclaiming ‘oh now I get it!’ This book doesn’t judge, it just takes your hand and walks you through something you maybe didn’t understand. Educational, funny, beautiful and freeing. I believe this book is going to free a lot of people, who might not even know they’re stuck. I just put it down and I want to read it again. Everyone should read this. * Sofie Hagen, comedian, author, podcaster *As ever Ruby takes the big, hard stuff and removes the fear from it. Non-monogamy can be tricky terrain, but this book not only gives us a map with which to navigate it, Ruby’s writing reminds us that it’s sexy, fun and enriching to get a little lost in the landscape along the way. * Tom Rasmussen, musician, author and drag performer *

Ruby Rare is a sex educator on a mission to get people talking more confidently and inclusively about sex. Her work is influenced by her experiences as a queer, non-monogamous, dual-heritage person. Ruby is a qualified relationship and sex educator. She is an ambassador for Brook, the UK’s leading sexual health charity for young people, where she worked for five years going into schools, teaching Relationship and Sex Education, and training other sex educators and teachers about pregnancy decision-making, porn and inclusive queerness.