Accidental Kindness

We will all be patients sooner or later. And when we go to the doctor, when we’re hurting, we tend to think in terms of cause and condemnation. We often look for relief not only from physical symptoms but also from our self-blame. We want from our doctors kindness under any of its many names: empathy, caring, compassion, humanity. We look for safety and forgiveness.

But we forget that doctors, too, are often in need of forgiveness—from their patients and from themselves. No doctor ent…