Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was A Girl

Bold, unsettling, and timely… . A reckoning with injustice.—Laurie Halse Anderson, TIME

Gorgeous, harrowing, heartbreaking.—Carmen Maria Machado, Bustle

About violence and forgiveness, about friendship and the unwanted title of victim, about digging deeper and deeper to seek answers.—The New York Times Book Review

A cuttingly funny meta-meditation on her own pain in the context of #MeToo.—O, The Oprah Magazine

A remarkably nuanced account of the complicated and confusing emotions that surface when your rapist is someone you knew and trusted.—The Cut

About how important it is to speak about these oft-silenced experiences that cause so many to feel ashamed, scared, and alone.—NPR

A stunning work of meta nonfiction… . Vanasco’s narrative pushes far past the flattened media narrative of Me Too and asks uncomfortable questions about how to talk about rape culture, toxic masculinity and gender, justice, and resilience.—Shondaland

Perhaps the most important book of the season.—Esquire

Utterly brilliant.—Book Riot

Thought-provoking, unmooring, and haunting.—NYLON

Striking… . Creates a language for something we don’t talk about.—The Paris Review

Heartfelt, painful, and essential.—Shelf Awareness

A gripping read and true fodder for the necessary reckoning with toxic masculinity.—BuzzFeed

Vanasco immediately makes you wonder how we can take so much about sexual assault for granted.—The Times Literary Supplement

Intrepid… . A work that has the potential to change the way we think and talk about rape and the people who commit it.—Bitch

Sets the canon of #MeToo-era creative nonfiction on fire… . Inimitable.—Booklist, Starred Review

An extraordinarily brave work of self- and cultural reflection.—Kirkus, Starred Review

Exactly the book we need right now… . I wish everyone in this country would read it.—Melissa Febos, author of Abandon Me

Stunning.—Angela Pelster, author of Limber

A literary feminist miracle.—Sophia Shalmiyev, author of Mother Winter

Brilliant.—Megan Stielstra, author of The Wrong Way to Save Your Life

Vanasco is a formidable talent.—Daniel Gumbiner, author of The Boatbuilder

An essential, unforgettable work.—Erik Anderson, author of Flutter Point

There is so much power in these pages.—Elissa Washuta, author of My Body is a Book of Rules

Interrogates the terms of betrayal and the limits of redemption.—Tim Taranto, author of Ars Botanica

A rigorous and nuanced investigation.—Lisa Locascio, author of Open Me

Wickedly clever and powerful.—Krystal A. Sital, author of Secrets We Kept: Three Women of Trinidad

Cuts through the silence of deep betrayal.—Amy Jo Burns, author of Shiner

Astonishingly fierce.—Emily Geminder, author of Dead Girls and Other Stories

Explores the common experience of rape with uncommon nuance and intense tenderness.—YZ Chin, author of Though I Get Home

Jeannie Vanasco is the author of the memoirs Things We Didn’t Talk About When I Was a Girl and The Glass Eye. Born and raised in Sandusky, Ohio, she lives in Baltimore and is an associate professor of English at Towson University.

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