I Love a Fire Fighter, Second Edition

“I laughed and cried as I read this book–the personal experiences and insights really spoke to me. I had so many ‘aha!’ moments! I am left with a sense that I am not alone, and I now have tools to navigate the fire service world.”–Chris S., fire fighter spouse “My husband started his career as a volunteer/reserve and eventually worked his way to Fire Chief. I have referred to this book every step of the way and found it to be a priceless source of knowledge and guidance. Over the years, I have recommended and given this book to dozens of spouses and family members as the top resource for understanding this unique culture and lifestyle. There is no other guide as complete as this one!”–Kelly B., Fire Chief spouse “The fire service culture is rich, unique, and full of tradition. Dr. Kirschman takes you through the interpersonal dynamics and lifestyle challenges that fire fighters face, and gives you real-world perspectives and advice.”–Kristen Wheldon, PsyD, President, Fire Service Psychology Association “My fire fighter is retired now, but if we had to do it all again, this book would have been a priceless roadmap for many of the problems and emotions that we encountered throughout her career. The fire service is unlike any other profession–this is a ‘must read’ for all current and future fire fighters and the people who love them.”–Lisa H., fire fighter spouse “Dr. Kirschman offers helpful insights into how fire fighters think, how the work can affect them, and how to take action for a healthy fire family. Not only is this book informative, it is also enjoyable to read. It is written in a conversational, no-nonsense style that makes you feel like you’re engaging with the author. Each chapter includes strategies from seasoned fire fighters and their family members, as well as Dr. Kirschman’s extensive experience. The robust list of resources will help you continue improving your relationships and well-being.”–Stephanie M. Conn, PhD, First Responder Psychology, Beaverton, Oregon; author of Increasing Resilience in Police and Emergency Personnel-This is a well-written handbook to help families of firefighters understand, mitigate, and possibly prevent many of the physical and mental health problems faced by firefighters. This second edition offers new chapters, including one on the unique stress of fighting wildfires, and also goes into greater detail on mitigating emotional trauma….A useful resource to clinicians and families alike.–Doody’s Review Service, 9/9/2021ƒƒDr. Kirschman offers cogent tips for dealing with the spillover between work and home….I highly recommend [this book] to mental health professionals, faith based helpers, peer supporters, and family members. [It offers] invaluable insights and constructive suggestions. (on the first edition)–International Journal of Emergency Mental Health, 1/1/2007ƒƒDefinitely a must read for supervisors and administrators of fire and emergency services, both volunteer and career. Also, this is an important book for professional psychologists rendering services to fire personnel, their families and organizations. (on the first edition)–Atlantic OccuPsych, 1/1/2005ƒƒA very welcome resource for the fire service. Every fire recruit should give a copy to his or her family on the first day of training. (on the first edition)–FireWork, 1/1/2005

“I laughed and cried as I read this book–the personal experiences and insights really spoke to me. I had so many ‘aha!’ moments! I am left with a sense that I am not alone, and I now have tools to navigate the fire service world.”–Chris S., fire fighter spouse “My husband started his career as a volunteer/reserve and eventually worked his way to Fire Chief. I have referred to this book every step of the way and found it to be a priceless source of knowledge and guidance. Over the years, I have recommended and given this book to dozens of spouses and family members as the top resource for understanding this unique culture and lifestyle. There is no other guide as complete as this one!”–Kelly B., Fire Chief spouse “The fire service culture is rich, unique, and full of tradition. Dr. Kirschman takes you through the interpersonal dynamics and lifestyle challenges that fire fighters face, and gives you real-world perspectives and advice.”–Kristen Wheldon, PsyD, President, Fire Service Psychology Association “My fire fighter is retired now, but if we had to do it all again, this book would have been a priceless roadmap for many of the problems and emotions that we encountered throughout her career. The fire service is unlike any other profession–this is a ‘must read’ for all current and future fire fighters and the people who love them.”–Lisa H., fire fighter spouse “Dr. Kirschman offers helpful insights into how fire fighters think, how the work can affect them, and how to take action for a healthy fire family. Not only is this book informative, it is also enjoyable to read. It is written in a conversational, no-nonsense style that makes you feel like you’re engaging with the author. Each chapter includes strategies from seasoned fire fighters and their family members, as well as Dr. Kirschman’s extensive experience. The robust list of resources will help you continue improving your relationships and well-being.”–Stephanie M. Conn, PhD, First Responder Psychology, Beaverton, Oregon; author of Increasing Resilience in Police and Emergency Personnel-This is a well-written handbook to help families of firefighters understand, mitigate, and possibly prevent many of the physical and mental health problems faced by firefighters. This second edition offers new chapters, including one on the unique stress of fighting wildfires, and also goes into greater detail on mitigating emotional trauma….A useful resource to clinicians and families alike.–Doody’s Review Service, 9/9/2021Æ’Æ’Dr. Kirschman offers cogent tips for dealing with the spillover between work and home….I highly recommend [this book] to mental health professionals, faith based helpers, peer supporters, and family members. [It offers] invaluable insights and constructive suggestions. (on the first edition)–International Journal of Emergency Mental Health, 1/1/2007Æ’Æ’Definitely a must read for supervisors and administrators of fire and emergency services, both volunteer and career. Also, this is an important book for professional psychologists rendering services to fire personnel, their families and organizations. (on the first edition)–Atlantic OccuPsych, 1/1/2005Æ’Æ’A very welcome resource for the fire service. Every fire recruit should give a copy to his or her family on the first day of training. (on the first edition)–FireWork, 1/1/2005

Ellen Kirschman, PhD, is a police and public safety psychologist, volunteer clinician at the First Responder Support Network, and sought-after speaker and workshop facilitator. Dr. Kirschman is a recipient of the Award for Outstanding Contributions to Police and Public Safety Psychology from the Police and Public Safety section of Division 18 (Psychologists in Public Service) of the American Psychological Association and the Distinguished Contribution to Psychology award from the California Psychological Association. She is coauthor of Counseling Cops; author of I Love a Cop, Third Edition, and I Love a Fire Fighter, Second Edition; and writes a mystery series featuring police psychologist Dr. Dot Meyerhoff. She also blogs with Psychology Today and writes a newsletter.