You Could Be Having Better Sex

“Full of practical tips, backed by science, on how to have truly fulfilling sex.” –The New York Times“Dr. McNichols is brilliant! In this ground-breaking, stereotype-busting, and myth-exploding book, McNichols gives us science-based truths on how to embrace our sexuality and fully enjoy it. This book should be considered required reading for young and old alike who want to replace their inhibitions with mind-blowing sex. Every aspect is covered here — from normalizing sexual fluidity, to the how-tos of experiencing shame-free sexual pleasure. The underlying theme that laces the book together is freedom— freedom to fully explore who you are sexually, including your desires, fantasies, and actions. Relationship factors are included, too, especially those that are sticky to navigate. And she accomplishes this with a delightful conversational style, practical down-to-earth advice, and storytelling that feel like a big warm embrace. We plan on recommending this book to all our clients! Bravo, Dr. McNichols! -Drs. Julie and John Gottman, NYT bestselling authors and founders of the Gottman Institute“Figuring out who you are when it comes to sex — what you want, what pleasure means to you, how to find people who want the same things — is a lifelong journey. As with any journey, a good guide is essential. And there’s no better guide than Dr. Nicole McNichols. Wise, funny, and deeply informed, Nicole is the guide — Nicole is the sex professor — you want in your corner, on your nightstand, and sitting on your shoulder, whispering words of encouragement in your ear. This book is a must-have companion for anyone who wants the very best when it comes to sex and intimacy.” -Dan Savage, bestselling author and host of the Savage Love podcast“In You Could Be Having Better Sex, Dr. Nicole McNichols delivers a delightfully honest roadmap to shed sexual shame and become open to the possibility of a richer sexual life. Applying her spectacular ability to thoughtfully and clearly translate complex findings from academic sex research into applicable elements, this book embraces and explains the many different ways people do and can experience sexual satisfaction. Candid, humorous, well researched, and refreshingly hopeful, this is the book to give yourself and anyone who’s pleasure you care about.” -Justin Garcia, PhD, Executive Director of The Kinsey Institute and author of The Intimate Animal“Dr. Nicole McNichols’s You Could Be Having Better Sex is the perfect blend of science, story, and suggestions. Drawing from her groundbreaking course at the University of Washington and her global presence as a trusted sex educator, McNichols translates research into real-life insights with clarity, warmth, and humor. She invites readers to challenge outdated ideas about sex, embrace diversity and agency, and discover pleasure without shame. Being both informative and inspiring, this book is an essential guide for anyone ready to expand their sexual literacy and cultivate more authentic, fulfilling sexual connections.” -Lori Brotto, Ph.D., Executive Director of the UBC Sexual Health Laboratory and author of Better Sex Through Mindfulness“Class is in session, and the subject is pleasure. You Could Be Having Better Sex is a myth-busting, science-based guide to turning the heat up in the bedroom. Professor McNichols gives us the tools we need to feel more comfortable, confident, and connected. This is homework you’ll actually be excited to do.” - Justin J. Lehmiller, Ph.D., Host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast and author of Tell Me What You Want

Dr. Nicole McNichols is an internationally renowned human sexuality professor, author, and speaker. Her groundbreaking course, The Diversity of Human Sexuality, is the most popular in the history of the University of Washington, enrolling over 4,000 students annually.