Tending the Bones

“From cover to cover, Tending the Bones blends and layers Pavini’s intergenerational insights, compassion, sex research, and embodied experience. Their generous, uplifting guidance has the potential to heal us all—the walking wounded—with a fresh, visionary approach. This thirteen-month program rooted in ancestral ritual and somatic practice is exxxxcellent psycho-magic which gives me hope that we can create a more peaceful, pleasurable, loving society. Tending the Bones blew me away—in the best, sexy way.”—Annie Sprinkle, ecosex educator, artist, and coauthor of Assuming the Ecosexual Position“In this brilliant, essential book of healing, Pavini Moray offers a clear, practical, and pleasure-centric path back to your body after trauma. Using the simple, powerful tools I recommend to all my students—breath, movement, vocalization, imagination, and clarity of intention—Tending the Bones gives you gentle yet powerful guidance on how you can work with and through your past to arrive warmly and ecstatically back home to yourself in the present.”—Barbara Carrellas, author of Urban Tantra“Deep and heartfelt … Pavini Moray offers a unique program to access your autonomy and your pleasure power. With this step-by-step guide, you can stay grounded as you engage with your ancestral trauma…. Tending the Bones helps you tap into all of your senses and sensibilities as you wend your way through ritual, poetry, journaling, and prayer toward your ongoing evolution. Dr. Moray shows us how our own healing is a tender practice we can weave throughout our life. What a beautiful gift!”—Celeste Hirschman, MA, cofounder of the Somatica Institute and author of Coming Together, Making Love Real, and Cockfidence“In Tending the Bones, Pavini Moray, a wise witch and a somatic sex therapist, presents a guidebook for intergenerational trauma healing and imbues it with potent spells that can be used to nurture erotic embodiment. Moray’s method for addressing trauma does not promise a simple cure, but emphasizes a lifelong commitment to continuous practices, chosen because they foster sexual well-being in one’s body and in one’s lineage. The book guides readers through a three-part journey: starting with preparatory practices that help reconnect with one’s body, then moving through ways to deal with sexual trauma, and culminating in practices that savor the aliveness we carry in our bodies. This aliveness has been passed down from our ancestors. Tending the Bones reminds us to pass this on to our descendants.”—Joseph Kramer, PhD, founder of Sexological Bodywork

PAVINI MORAY has started, failed, and succeeded at many businesses. A serial entrepreneur, they have built private practices, a worker collective, and a for-profit company. Thirty years of teaching experience has shaped them into a service-oriented leader, facilitator, and teacher who meets students and clients where they are. A somatic coach specializing in trauma and relationships, they have developed pedagogy and methodology for embodied relationships. They have helped thousands live lives of pleasure and satisfaction. Pavini is a queer, trans, nonbinary founder with insight into outsider cultures and the need for accessibility. Moray holds an MEd in Montessori curriculum design, as well as a PhD in somatic psychology. They are the author of How to Hold Power.