Love All Our Neighbors

“A refreshingly hopeful book, at once pastoral and personal. Tony Scarcello does more than simply show where we’ve gone wrong. He reminds us that the way of Jesus is still good and beautiful news for every single one of our neighbors—and for us.”

“A refreshingly hopeful book, at once pastoral and personal. Tony Scarcello does more than simply show where we’ve gone wrong. He reminds us that the way of Jesus is still good and beautiful news for every single one of our neighbors—and for us.”

“Tony Scarcello’s Love All Our Neighbors is the book I’ve been waiting to be able to shout out from the rooftops about. Tony’s story—compounded by rich theological conviction and brutal compassion—offers the church a way forward that cuts through the muck. Tony’s is a voice in the wilderness that deserves to be heard. You would be wise to listen.”

“I will never understand why those of us who experience same-sex attractions and surrender them to Jesus experience greater scrutiny than those who experience another form of sexual brokenness. Tony Scarcello graciously helps us examine some of the problems and solutions to this issue so we can worship Jesus together.”

“Navigating tension with both conviction and kindness seems like a skill that’s in sadly short supply these days. But in Love All Our Neighbors, Tony Scarcello shows us how. This book weaves together theological richness, Biblical conviction, pastoral nuance, and deep human kindness to show us how we might embody Christlike love to any and all God brings into our spheres of influence.”

“This book offers far more than the perspective of an intelligent thinker with strong ideals—it comes from someone shaped by deeply lived experiences. Tony Scarcello provides a thoughtful, compassionate guide that will help many Christians learn to love and understand their LGBTQ neighbors more fully. The church needs Scarcello’s voice in this conversation.”

“Love All Our Neighbors has a very rare powerful combo when talking about this critically sensitive and uber-important topic. First, Tony Scarcello shares his firsthand experience, showing this isn’t theoretical talk but from one who understands what he is writing about. Second, we see a solid grounding in the historical doctrines of the Christian faith and ethics without compromise to the culture. It is crystal clear the answer is not rethinking Scripture to compromise truth as many have done. Third, it is a book of heart, compassion, and love and not angry, pointing fingers, creating a battle with the goal of redemption, reconciliation, restoration, and the gospel changing lives.”

“There is little question that Christianity in the USA has largely harmed LGBTQ+ people. But love offers a better way than demonization, alienation, or non-engagement. Tony Scarcello’s honesty, vulnerability, experience, and insights can help many Christians—especially those who hold to traditional heterosexual views of sexual relationships and marriage. Love All Our Neighbors invites us all to look at ourselves while we reach out to others.”

“Tony Scarcello has walked a hard, narrow path with grace, love, and truth. In Love All Our Neighbors, he leads the way to help others do the same. This book will challenge you. It may make you uncomfortable at times. It will definitely make you think. But mostly it will equip you to wrestle through hard realities with the kind of grace, love, and truth Tony embodies in his life and ministry.”

“I’m so grateful this book exists. Tony Scarcello has impacted my life deeply as a friend, and it’s a gift to see his hard-earned wisdom now shared with the world. Love All Our Neighbors avoids pat answers and tired clichés, modeling the life-changing combination of grace and truth—orthodoxy expressed with compassion. It is a faithful and needed guide for the church as we learn to love our LGBTQ+ neighbors well.”

Tony Scarcello has served in pastoral ministry since 2011 and is currently the pastor of discipleship at Red Hills Church just outside Portland, Oregon. He is the author of Regenerate: Following Jesus After Deconstruction and has written articles for The Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender and Theology in the Raw. Tony speaks all over the country helping leaders, churches, and believers navigate the complex intersection of historic Christian theology, pastoral care, and their LGBTQ+ neighbors. He holds a MA in Biblical Leadership from Western Seminary in Portland, and lives in the Pacific Northwest with the girl of his dreams, his wife Kelsey.