The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men

As useful for clinicians interested in conceptualizing differentiation as an organizing concept in relational therapy with gay, queer, and male identified same gender loving people, as it is for men looking to better understand how to remain authentic and connected to self and others in intimate relationship. – Joseph Winn LICSW, CST-S AASECT Certified Sex therapist and Certified Supervisor of Sex Therapy

Tom Bruett tailors conventional relationship advice specifically for gay male couples, saving you the hassle of sifting through heteronormative content for useful insights. With warmth and humor, he offers practical tools for gay men to enhance their relationships and strengthen their connections.-

– Michael A. Vigorito, LMFT, CGP, CST-S, Co-author of Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior – Rethinking Sex AddictionTom takes you on a journey from trauma to transformation. You can go as deep as you desire to create the loving relationship that’s perfect for you. As a co-creator of the Developmental Model, I am thrilled to have our work so powerfully executed to benefit the queer community. – Ellyn Bader, Ph.D, Co-Founder of The Couples Institute and Co-Creator, The Developmental Model of Couples TherapyIn a vast emotional desert, Tom’s book shines like a radiant oasis, offering profound insights and heartfelt guidance for navigating gay relationships. Embrace this treasure map to clarity and connection-your inspiring journey towards authentic love begins now – Peter Pearson, Ph.D. Co-founder The Couples InstituteTom Bruett has written an indispensable guide for gay and queer men looking to build healthy, lasting, and fulfilling relationships. Written in a very down-to-earth style, Bruett seamlessly weaves together clinical insights, science, and personal stories. This book is brimming with practical tips and advice on how to build a thriving relationship while staying true to yourself. – Dr. Justin Lehmiller, Kinsey Institute research fellow, author of Tell Me What You Want, and host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast.Excellent book! It was refreshing to read a book written specifically for queer and gay men, rather than for straight men that was adapted to queer folks. The sections about relationship models, (Developmental, Attachment & Differentiation) will be incredibly practical for helping queer and gay men have better relationships. – Neil ‘Nelly’ Cannon, LMFTBruett has written a smart, relevant, and extremely timely relationship guide for gay men, through the lens of a highly skilled gay relationship therapist. Full of cultural references to gay relationships, you won’t have to sift through a lot of heteronormative language to find yourself represented here. What’s more, the model he presents is brilliant. Without a doubt, this book will help support you in creating a deeper, more fulfilling relationship. – Martha Kauppi, LMFT, CST-S, Author of Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients)