Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents

Based on the self-help classic, Stop Walking on Eggshells , this essential guide offers powerful skills and strategies for parenting a child of any age with borderline personality disorder (BPD)--without sacrificing their family or themselves. If you have a child with BPD, you are all-too-aware of the behavioral and emotional issues that are linked to this disorder--including rages, self-harm, sexual acting out, substance abuse, suicidal behaviors, physical and emotional attacks, and more. Traditional parenting strategies that work on other kids just don't work with a borderline child. But you shouldn't lose hope. The good news is that there are parenting strategies that do work. With this comprehensive resource, you will learn all about borderline personality disorder, how it shows up in children, adolescents, and your adult children, how to obtain proper treatment, and how to manage your child's condition at home. You'll find proven-effective strategies to help you communicate and improve your relationship with your child of any age, and, as a result, improve your own life as a parent and an individual. You'll also find real stories and advice from parents who have also experienced raising a child with BPD. Most importantly, you'll learn how to maintain boundaries and validate your child while also meeting your own needs. Whether your child is 5 or 25, this book offers tools to help you and your family thrive.

“"This is a valuable, practical resource for parents and caregivers of children, from age five through adulthood, who exhibit signs of, or have been diagnosed with, borderline personality disorder (BPD). Useful for both parents just learning about BPD and those with years of familiarity, the book goes through strategies of care for children with the disorder as well as tools for caregiver self-care, providing many useful resources along the way. One particularly unique and helpful tool placed throughout the book are charts comparing BPD with other disorders. With chapters dedicated to family dynamics and working with siblings, the book ultimately offers a roadmap for people to understand the complexities of the disorder, not just from a clinical perspective, but through personal accounts from people who have BPD. 'When we began this book, the parents we interviewed asked us to include stories of hope,' write the authors. 'We thought such tales were going to be hard to find, but we had plenty--way more than we can use.' Highly recommended for all libraries." -- Booklist”

"This is a valuable, practical resource for parents and caregivers of children, from age five through adulthood, who exhibit signs of, or have been diagnosed with, borderline personality disorder (BPD). Useful for both parents just learning about BPD and those with years of familiarity, the book goes through strategies of care for children with the disorder as well as tools for caregiver self-care, providing many useful resources along the way. One particularly unique and helpful tool placed throughout the book are charts comparing BPD with other disorders. With chapters dedicated to family dynamics and working with siblings, the book ultimately offers a roadmap for people to understand the complexities of the disorder, not just from a clinical perspective, but through personal accounts from people who have BPD. 'When we began this book, the parents we interviewed asked us to include stories of hope, ' write the authors. 'We thought such tales were going to be hard to find, but we had plenty--way more than we can use.' Highly recommended for all libraries."
--Booklist-- "Booklist"
"Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents is a much-needed and welcome guide for families who have a child with borderline behaviors. Using research and interviews with real families, the authors provide comprehensive guidance, information, support, parenting suggestions, treatment options, and extensive examples to help parents respond effectively to the difficult challenges of their emotionally dysregulated children. It fills a great need for practical, understanding support."
--Margalis Fjelstad, PhD, author of Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship, and coauthor of Raising Resilient Children with a Borderlineor Narcissist Parent--Margalis Fjelstad, PhD
"Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents takes on the challenging territory of helping parents who have a child living with BPD, and provides actionable suggestions in a framework that is compassionate toward everyone in the family system. Very few books take on the issue of the onset of BPD patterns in childhood and adolescence, and this awareness is essential to helping families with support instead of stigma."
--Ramani Durvasula, PhD, clinical psychologist; founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training and Consulting; and retired professor of psychology at California State University, Los Angeles--Ramani Durvasula, PhD
"Children don't come with instruction manuals--particularly borderline personality disorder (BPD) children. This book is a comprehensive guide to why your child is so troubled, disrespectful, and prone to rages; how you can strategize to improve these and other typical BPD behaviors (and your own health in the process!); and where to find the resources to assist you. For bewildered and beleaguered parents at their wits' end, it's the answer to a prayer!"
--Fran L. Porter, BEd, MA, 2017 Calgary Philanthropic Award winner, and author of When the Ship Has No Stabilizers--Fran L. Porter, BEd, MA
"This book is full of useful information for parents and caretakers of children with BPD. It is a great resource for those who need help with the behavior and ever-changing emotions of their child. I highly recommend this book to parents of children at any age to help navigate the uncertain journey with BPD, and help themselves and their child."
--Donna Toone, administrator of the Facebook group, Support for Parents of Children with BPD; and mom of a child with BPD--Donna Toone

Randi Kreger is author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder . Her website, , offers material related to BPD. She also provides a free online family support group, Moving Forward, at groups.io/g/MovingForward. She gives workshops throughout the US and Japan. Christine Adamec is a self-help author whose books include When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart and The Grandfamily Guidebook . She has authored and coauthored 40 books, and is a member of the American Society of Journalists & Authors. Daniel S. Lobel, PhD , practices clinical psychology in Katonah, NY. He is the author of two books: When Your Daughter Has BPD and When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder, and numerous blogs on Psychology Today . He has taught at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, State University of New York, Hofstra School of Law and lectures with the National Alliance of the Mentally Ill (NAMI).

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