Prepare a Room

For those suffering in heart, mind, and spirit after an abortion experience, help is offered here. A culture of denial about the traumatic effects of abortion has left many women and men trapped in regret, shame, and self-condemnation about their experience. How can those who have been traumatized by this deeply wounding scourge find a doorway to freedom and hope? Michelle Shelfer offers a ten-step path to peace and healing that addresses the damage done to identity and relationships by abortion and offers real-life tools to restore what has been broken. Embark on a journey that honors your unique story and opens the door to joyful restoration through discovery of the greatest love. Includes study-group questions and workbook space for writing. Perfect for your women's group.

We cannot expect to move forward from the hurt of abortion if the doors to an appropriate grieving process are shut. The doors might be shut by our surrounding culture that is unable to acknowledge just how traumatic abortion is. We might be singing that same old song ourselves-"It was no big deal, really." "All my girlfriends have done it, and they all seem okay." "It was a long time ago. I've left it behind." The doors to healing might be shut by the shame over what was done and the inability to look at it squarely in the face or take responsibility-by a desire to bury the experience before we have understood it. Maybe the relationships involved are just too painful to think about. Who wants to stir up a bunch of muck? What good does it do to open the floodgate of tears? Why revisit that regrettable mess? You have so many excellent and persuasive reasons not to seek peace and healing.

But what if a new hope were offered to you? A hope for new ways of seeing the value of your life, a new way of loving

others and loving your lost child, a new way of leaving behind the crippling guilt, a new help in carrying the burden of what you've done? What if you found an open door? I ask you to hold out hope that there may be relief in store for you. When you take even a tiny step, you gain a new perspective. You can look back at where you've been, because you're not there anymore. I'd be willing to bet that-even just having read this little bit of the book you hold in your hand-you can already sense movement. When you act bravely, life might just reward you with insight and a new sense of direction. If you're stuck, you might just get unstuck. Maybe you'll inch one step closer to closure. Maybe you'll be able to put guilt, shame, and self-condemnation behind you and just grieve the loss of your child without that extra baggage darkening your outlook. Or maybe you'll be completely transformed by the blessed release of a terrible weight you have been carrying for a long time. The story of what got you to this point is uniquely your own, and the story of how you move forward will also be uniquely your own.

I don't know what lies in store for you, but I am here to help. The intent of this book is to open that door to a process that will allow you to heal and grieve. It offers a ten-step path designed to take you from the hurt of abortion to peace. A chapter at the back of the book provides words from the Bible and prayerful insight for each of the ten steps on the path. Consult it as you go along.

What you get out of this book probably depends a lot on what you put in. I offer you no guarantees, but at the very least, Prepare a Room will give you ideas to make things better.

And the best-case scenario?

You will find a whole new life.

A must read for everyone! The author Michelle Shelfer amazed me with her words of clarity, value, and love for humanity. This book will transform your thinking about yourself, and how disappointments can be used for something greater in life. It's

"Time2Heal," as I would say to my clients. Thank you Michelle, for explaining the steps to a new purpose in life, by preparing an eternal, beautiful room in our hearts.

Trish Steele

Founder, Safe Passage/Time2Heal

As a woman who has personally experienced abortion, it was a joy to have tea with this author while preparing the rooms. This book not only offers the hope of healing for those suffering the guilt and shame of abortion, but it also addresses relationships and other important issues. Most importantly, it points to the "greatest love," which is the love of Jesus by His sacrifice on the cross for our sins!

I recommend this book to counselors helping the post-abortive or to individuals seeking healing from abortion, and also to those wanting a better understanding of the effects of abortion.

Mary Ann Ambroselli

25-year Executive Director, Ventura County Pregnancy Center

23-year Counselor/Leader, Healing Hearts Ministries

Ready for reality? It doesn't get more real than the journey you are about to take with Michelle Shelfer in Prepare a Room. Having personally experienced the pain in abortion, she courageously shares the path to "greatest love." Now a mother and grandmother, she will gently lead you through the reconstruction of your life by preparing the "new rooms" you will need for this life-transforming reality. If at some point in this journey you feel that you can't go forward, go to her personal story at the end of this book and find new reasons to continue on. New life is awaiting you as you follow the path that Michelle has so carefully prepared for you!

Gaylord Enns

Author of Love Revolution: Rediscovering the Lost Command of Jesus

At our prenatal clinic, we often see women who face past abortions and miscarriages, or who have even suffered a stillbirth. Sometimes our patients are considering abortion because their current situation isn't a healthy one in which to raise a child. No two women's stories are the same. Having this book will give us a great resource, a book full of hope, a lifeline to offer any woman, and a way to help her see beyond her past decisions with a future hope.

I highly recommend Michelle Shelfer's very well written, moving book for anyone working with post-abortive people.

And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh. (Ezekiel 36:26)

Robin Strom

Executive Director, Marin Pregnancy Clinic

Finally! I have many counseling opportunities to care for couples and individuals who have suffered with the guilt and shame of abortion. Though I share the love, mercy, and forgiveness of God in our Messiah, still there was always a need for a testimony of love, warm acceptance, practical advice, and the Good News for hurting people, from a woman who walked that trail of tears and came through it as an instrument of God's joy, help, and healing. Michelle Shelfer is that woman, and this book is finally the much-needed resource for those in my situation who want desperately to help those who are hurting the most.

Thank you, Michelle, for helping to address this great need in our society with compassion, kindness, and clarity, as you wonderfully "speak the truth in love" to all who are willing to take the time to open their hearts to Yeshua's amazing love and grace!

Dr. Sam Nadler

Author; President, Word of Messiah Ministries

Congregation leader, Hope of Israel Congregation, Charlotte, NC

Michelle Shelfer lives with her husband of forty-two years in Northern California and loves to tend to her chickens and thirteen grandchildren. She was raised in a secular Jewish family in San Francisco, the child of bohemian artist parents, one of whom escaped the Holocaust. Michelle studied the arts, gaining a Masters degree in Motion Picture Animation from UCLA and going on to work in the field of educational software. She has produced award-winning, internationally screened animations and has released four musical recordings of her original compositions.Michelle seeks to see the many men and women hurt by abortion healed and restored. She brings her own personal experience with abortion-with compassion, insight, and practical guidance-in the hopes that those who have been hurt will find relief and new life. Find her at PrepareARoom.com, TheFoundlings.net, VictoriousWarrior.org, and michelleshelfer.substack.com/.

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