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‘Powerful, humane and wise’ JULIA SAMUEL

‘Everyone should read it’ NIGELLA LAWSON

‘Beautiful … This is a book for everyone. You feel held by it’ PHILIPPA PERRY

Most of us have a conversation we’re avoiding.
From the bestselling author of With the End in Mind, this is a book about the conversations that matter and how to have them better – more honestly, more confidently and without regret.

A child coming out to their parent. A family losing someone to terminal illness. A friend noticing the first signs of someone’s dementia. A careers advisor and a teenager with radically different perspectives.

There are moments when we must talk, listen and be there for one another. Why do we so often come away from those times feeling like we could have done more, or should have been braver in the face of discomfort? Why do we skirt the conversations that might matter most?

By bringing together stories with a lifetime’s experience working in medicine and the newest psychology, Mannix offers lessons for how we can better speak our mind and help when others need to.

Kathryn Mannix’s ‘With the End in Mind’ was a Sunday Times bestseller the weeks ending 6 January 2018, 13 January 2018 and 3 February 2018.

“PRAISE FOR WITH THE END IN MIND 'It is incredibly moving, of course, but what it isn't is miserable. Yes this is a book about death, but it is also a book about joy. There aren't all that many books that change the way you see the world. This book really might. It will make you want to do a better job of loving and living. It will make you want to be kinder. And it will make you want to cherish every precious moment of your precious life.' Sunday Times 'Extraordinary and profoundly moving. ... Any reader will come away with the wish that they will be cared for at the end by someone with Mannix's imaginative sympathy and matter-of-fact generosity of perception' Rowan Williams, New Statesman 'Illuminating and beautiful ... I shed a few tears but it's not gut wrenching and Mannix weaves the light and dark strands of her experience with finesse. It's essential reading for anyone who will encounter death, and that means all of us.' Cathy Rentzenbrink, The Times 'I got to the end of Kathryn Mannix's book with just one thought - I wish I'd been a palliative consultant ... A reminder that talking about death is an Act of Love' Greg Wise 'In the last few years, there has been a crowd of books by doctors, scientists and writers that have sought to show us different, kinder ways of ending: Atul Gawande, Oliver Sacks, Henry Marsh... the list is long. Now Kathryn Mannix joins this distinguished group. Mannix's aim is to shed a soft, clear light on a subject too often avoided. Mild, tender and conciliatory, I would like her to be my compassionate, wise doctor when I lie dying.' Observer”

‘This gentle-hearted, engaging and intimately readable book is so full of wisdom and compassion. Everyone should read it’
Nigella Lawson

‘Kathryn Mannix has a gift for cutting through the noise and helping us realise what is most important. In a world that never stops talking, this book celebrates and demonstrates the curative power of listening. It is powerful, humane and wise’
Julia Samuel

‘This is a beautiful book … Too often people want their friends and relations to take all the difficult talk to a therapist, there has to be more than the professional listeners who know how to have a mutually impactful beautiful, tender conversation. This is a book for everyone … I actually feel listened to by reading it’
Philippa Perry

‘Kathryn Mannix is our modern-day prophet … This is an essential book for anyone interested in themselves and their fellow humans’
Greg Wise

‘I adore Kathryn's writing. Always sensitive, always thoughtful, an essential read for those looking to connect’
Cariad Lloyd

‘Kathryn Mannix is a natural born storyteller, and there is so much wisdom, tenderness and love packed into this profoundly beautiful book … Her words brim with grace. I loved this book so very much.’
Rachel Clarke

‘The book’s greatest strength is not just the information it shares, but the pure humanity it shows; the halting, fearful, imperfect conversations between people who are all doing their best and sometimes not getting it right. The gems of wisdom apply to all situations, whether someone is at the end of their life or has had a bad day at work … Compassionate, warm and wise’
The Times

‘Like having a long and rewarding conversation with a really good friend … Perhaps the most important component in all of the chapters, however, is the telling of stories … As with Mannix’s first book, there are many moving tales within these pages … Wise, gentle and profound’
Joanna Cannon, The Guardian, Book of the Day

Kathryn Mannix has spent her medical career working with people who have incurable, advanced illnesses. Starting in cancer care and changing career to become a pioneer of the new discipline of palliative medicine, she has worked in teams in hospices, hospitals and in patients’ own homes to deliver palliative care, optimising quality of life even as death is approaching. Having qualified as a Cognitive Behaviour Therapist in 1993, she started the UK’s (possibly the world’s) first CBT clinic exclusively for palliative care patients, and devised ‘CBT First Aid’ training to enable palliative care colleagues to add new skills to their repertoire for helping patients.Kathryn has worked with many thousands of dying people, and has found their ability to deal with illness and death both fascinating and inspirational. She believes that a better public awareness about what happens as we die would reduce fear and enable people to discuss their hopes and plans with the people who matter to them.

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