Quickies

“A funny, compassionate guide to inspire anyone in mid- or late life to embrace sexual changes.”–Kirkus

–Kirkus Staff Writer, Kirkus Media

“A women’s health advocate guides readers through the ups and downs of sexual health in midlife.

Bartos, an OB/GYN and menopause specialist, walks female readers through 100 different ways to embrace their sexuality as they age. Presented in bite-sized chunks (typically three to four pages long), these lessons tackle every aspect of intimacy and aging. Readers delve into the various factors at play and how the interactions between these factors can affect sexuality as a whole. These elements include emotional health, such as the role that gratitude can play in foreplay; social pressures, like the constant barrage of unrealistic, media-driven beauty standards; and sexual fluidity and its various configurations. The author offers many suggestions along the way for readers to make the most of her advice, such as making a “freebie fantasy list” that reflects one’s ideal combination of different people, places, and scenarios to share with a sexual partner. She provides more mundane, practical tips as well, advising readers on how to properly clean sex toys or how and when to bring in outside bedroom help via a sex coach. Bartos tackles her subjects with a breezy, nonjudgmental tone (exemplified in a delightful prologue written by “Your Vagina”); her approach deftly leavens the often emotionally fraught issues of fluctuating hormones and evolving sexual urges that many women experience. Certain topics may be uncomfortable or confusing for certain readers–for example, when discussing the do’s and don’ts of “vabbing” (dabbing vaginal fluids on pulse points to promote pheromone-based attraction), Bartos emphasizes that one should never touch people with “vabbed” body parts without consent–but the awkward logistics of gaining such consent are never explored. Still, the author advocates for women’s sexual health in a positive and entertaining manner. The vast majority of her suggestions and advice will provide much-needed answers to often-overlooked issues.

A funny, compassionate guide to inspire anyone in mid- or late life to embrace sexual changes.”–Kirkus

–Kirkus Staff Writer, Kirkus Reviews

“Dr. Bartos is the kind of ob-gyn every woman deserves to have–a unique blend of whip-smart and down-to-earth, a clinician you’d feel comfortable talking to about anything. In Quickies, she gives all of us the information we need about a topic too many of us don’t feel comfortable bringing up with our own doctors: sex, and all the ways it changes in midlife. Name the issue–from foreplay, cosplay, and kink to STIs and how sex changes after big transitions like cancer, divorce, or a hysterectomy–you’ll find evidence-based information and shame-free support in the 100 little lessons in this book, all with a big dose of Dr. Bartos’ laugh-out-loud humor.”–Meghan Rabbitt, Author of The New Rules of Women’s Health

––Meghan Rabbitt, health journalist and author of The New Rules of Women’s Health, The Empress

“THE essential guide to claiming and savoring the wisdom, power, and world-rocking, soul-shaking sex you’ve spent a lifetime earning.”–Kirsten Miller, bestselling author of The Change

–Kirsten Miller, The Empress“Fun, sizzling, and refreshing, Quickies is the pleasure and intimacy BFF that can turn your midlife years into your best yet. From radical self-acceptance and debunked myths to illuminating 101s on sex toys, fantasies, and bedroom challenges, nothing is off the table.”–August McLaughlin, Journalist, Author, and Girl Boner Radio Host/Producer“Guaranteed to inspire laughter and enlightenment, Quickies is the ultimate companion for navigating mid-life with grace and vitality.”–Melanie Maure, Author of the acclaimed novel Sisters of Belfast“Heather Bartos is my absolute favorite gyno-smart, funny, and as real as your best friend. Quickies will make you braver, wiser, and oh-so-ready to build your best sex life” -Jill Hamilton, Cosmo

Dr. Heather Bartos is an OB/GYN, menopause specialist, podcaster, author, and speaker. She was recognized by Oprah Winfrey and Maria Shriver as one of the nation’s top five experts in menopause.

Her mission is to dismantle the taboos surrounding menopause and sexuality, empowering women through transformative midlife transitions. Dr. Bartos leads the Menopause Rocks™ and Menopause Works™ programs, revolutionizing care for menopause both personally and in the workplace.

Her diverse background, including PR, medicine, Reiki practice, and Navy service, informs her holistic and personalized approach to healthcare. Dr. Bartos has been featured in Shape, Glamour, Refinery29, and ABC News. She was named the “resident gynecologist” by Poosh and celebrated by Cosmo magazine as a ‘supremely badass gyno,’ underscoring her significant impact on women’s health advocacy.