Ask Me How It Works

Deepa is the epitome of a woman living in her power. Ask Me How It Works provides a stunningly vulnerable and poetic glimpse into her most intimate spaces and through her journey to sexual liberation. If this book doesn’t change your perspective on relationships, nothing will – Gillian Anderson A fascinating and big-hearted portrait of sex, intimacy and non-monogamy – Clover Stroud A singingly honest, live-wire of a memoir. Reads like a long-overdue conversation with an old friend, will leave you thrilled and humming with possibility – Yael van der Wouden A spectacular memoir written with verve and style – Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah A generous-spirited, imaginative exploration of how to live life differently – Rebecca Wait, author of I’m Sorry You Feel That Way A wonderfully honest and liberating memoir – Julia Samuel, author of This Too Shall Pass A rare and wonderful thing. I feel changed and inspired by this book – Lucy-Anne Holmes With candour and wit, Deepa invites readers into her personal journey. As a woman of colour, her perspective adds a needed voice to discussions of non-traditional relationships – Jessica Fern, author of POLYSECURE

Deepa Paul is a Filipina-Indian author living in Amsterdam. Her writing explores the balance between being a mother, wife, girlfriend, daughter, adventurer, and herself - all at the same time.