Why are We Yelling?

This is a life-changing book. Read it three times and then give a copy to anyone you care about. It will make things better – Seth GodinConflict can be ugly. But if you follow the precepts of Buster Benson, you’ll discover that it’s also inevitable, necessary, and even helpful … everybody can learn how to argue better and more productively with this provocative book – Daniel H. Pink, author of When and To Sell Is HumanAll you need is Buster Benson. His methods are instantly actionable, his writing is funny and relatable, and his book is the ideal companion to Difficult Conversations – Adam Grant, bestselling author of OriginalsI’m a sucker for frameworks, and this is one of the greats. You’ll learn to turn the messy, frustrating, emotional experience of arguing into a fine art. You’ll watch the quality of your collaborations – and your ideas – go through the roof – Nir Eyal, bestselling author of Hooked and IndistractableIn today’s polarized climate, ‘productive disagreement’ often feels like an oxymoron. Benson brilliantly challenges this idea, offering a thoughtful guidebook on how to lower our voices, tolerate tension, and have the constructive dialogue our world needs – General Stanley McChrystalBuster Benson turns everything you know about arguing on its head. Before reading this book, I never thought I’d be looking forward to my next disagreement. Productive disagreeing is the most underrated life skill you can build – Ev Williams, CEO of Medium, partner at Obvious Ventures, co-founder of TwitterReading Why Are We Yelling? is like having your most calm, level-headed friend explain how you might diffuse a tense situation in your life and work. I especially recommend this book to anyone who has ever tried to ‘win’ an argument only to end up frustrated with the results – Jason Shellen, co-founder of Google Reader, Boxer, and Brizzly; founder of A Little DriveWith provocative ideas – and the brain science to back them up – Why Are We Yelling? offers fresh approaches to conflict and connection – Sarah Milstein, author of The Twitter BookLively, accessible, and practical guide … eight valuable principles for turning rude arguments or suppressed differences into dynamic conversations that illuminate, connect, and yield better results for all – William Ury, co-author of Getting to Yes, and author of Getting to Yes with YourselfThis clever, empowering book shows how conflict can be a source of growth, intrigue, and joy … This is the perfect book at the perfect time to bring some sanity back into disagreements – Annie Duke, author of Thinking in Bets

Buster Benson currently leads a 100+ platform team at Slack. Previous to that, he held positions as an engineer, designer and product manager at Twitter and Amazon. He has also founded three tech companies and built an engaged social media and Medium community.