Connectability

“For anyone who’s ever felt alone in a crowded room or overwhelmed by connection itself, this book is a lifeline. Drawing from her own lived experience, Anna offers a warm, practical, and deeply relatable guide to healing the wounds of relational trauma. With clarity and compassion, she lays out a daily path to move from isolation to ‘connectability’ so you can finally feel at ease with others and at home in yourself.”— Dr. Nicole LePera, author of the #1 New York Times bestsellers How to Do the Work and How to Be the Love You Seek“If you’ve ever felt too weird, too broken, too much, or not enough, this book is for you. Connectability isn’t self-help fluff. It’s a field guide for the misfits, the loners, the ones who’ve been through a lot, have begun healing, and still want to explore what’s left to heal. Anna’s been there. She gets it. And her words will help you remember you’re not alone and never were.” — Humble The Poet, international best-selling author of How to Be Love(d)“For some people, ‘connectability’ comes naturally. For the rest of us, Anna’s book is a game changer. I felt like Anna saw straight through me, to the subconscious things I do that keep me lonely; spoke straight to the core terror that relationships can trigger and to the ways I’ve blown up relationships in the past; and then took me by the hand and walked me through simple, practical, actionable steps to connect with other humans in a real, deep way. This is exactly what you need when you long for connection but people are also your biggest trigger. Finally, a book from someone who truly understands that paradox.”— Emma McAdam, licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of Therapy in a Nutshell “There’s a terrible sense of isolation that haunts many of us who grew up with the trauma, even when our lives look successful and connected from the outside. As Anna so powerfully lays out in Connectability, more people than ever before want to have closer, more fulfilling relationships with the people in their lives, but they don’t know how. In her inimitable straight-talking and hands-on style, Anna shows you the hidden ways connection wounds manifest and teaches you the precise exercises to break avoidant habits and to feel confident and at ease wherever you go. I wish I’d had Anna’s wisdom and guidance during my darkest times, and I’m so glad that you do.” — Dr. Alex Howard, author of It’s Not Your Fault “Disconnection sits at the heart of the mental health crisis in our society. If you’ve ever struggled to maintain close relationships—or found yourself keeping others at arm’s length—this book is essential reading. The hopeful message Anna offers is that connectability is not fixed; it’s a skill you can learn and strengthen, even if you’ve experienced trauma or attachment wounds early in life. In an era of disconnection, this book is both timely and vital—and may well be a turning point toward a more connected life for those who read it.”— Niall McKeever, founder, The Weekend University

Anna Runkle leads a movement to help men and women worldwide to heal trauma symptoms and change their lives—whether or not they have access to professional help. More than a million men and women worldwide subscribe to her YouTube channel, blog, courses and coaching programs, where she teaches the principles and techniques she has used to recover from her own Childhood PTSD symptoms. Her approach includes simple, self-directed exercises to calm emotional triggers and neurological dysregulation and begin changing the self-defeating behaviors that are common for people who have lived much of their lives dysregulated. She lives with her husband and two sons in the San Francisco Bay Area.