How to Understand Your Sexuality

From the outset this book feels gentle, kind and embracing. The clarity of structure and straightforward guidance helps to lead me through what is an incredibly nourishing text. Perhaps this sounds trite, but as I was reading, I knew that the authors cared deeply about my journey through the book. And that’s rare indeed.

– Juno Roche, writerIn How To Understand Your Sexuality, Barker & Iantaffi bring you a goldmine of wisdom, helping us break down and understand the struggles of sex in our everyday lives. From understanding the difference between identity and practice, to what it means personally, politically socially and erotically, why it matters, and considerations for how to do it differently, this guide offers people interested in sex a useful handbook for exploring their own sexuality and understanding that of their partners, peers and the world around them. An erotic almanac of our times, HTUYS is destined to be a go-to text for those seeking a portal into pleasure wisdom of the mind, body and heart. – Cyndi Darnell: Sex & Relationships Therapist & Somatic SexologistThis is such an interesting and engaging book. Meg-John and Alex do a fantastic job at helping you to understand and articulate your sexuality, both as it is now but also what it might be. I implore fellow straight blokes to read this! Use these tools to examine your sexualities and intentionally allow them to become. Also use this guide to nourish your loved ones that they might become their (a)sexual selves too. – Justin Hancock, sex and relationships educator bishuk.com & Culture Sex Relationships podcastInformative and readable. At a time when sexuality has become something to be regulated, this book invites wonder and curiosity. * Manu Bazzano, Therapy Today *

Meg-John Barker is the author of a number of popular books on sex, gender, and relationships, including graphic guides to Queer, Gender, and Sexuality, How To Understand Your Gender, Life Isn’t Binary, Enjoy Sex (How, When, and IF You Want To), Rewriting the Rules, and Hell Yeah Self Care. They have also written a number of books for scholars and counsellors on these topics, drawing on their own years of academic work and therapeutic practice.

Alex Iantaffi is an internationally recognized independent scholar, speaker and writer on issues of gender, disability, sexuality and mental health. They are also a licensed marriage and family therapist, sex therapist, somatic experiencing practitioner and supervisor.