Toxic Grit

Toxic Grit is an original take on personal growth, brilliantly explored through the lens of character theory. The belief that all women have ten inner characters competing within themselves at all times is universally relatable. You might think you’re operating from your inner CEO when in reality, your Soloist is running the show.

Amanda’s expertise, gleaned from years of coaching high performers shines through on every page, but what makes this book so compelling is that she never stops being a student herself. Her insights are sharp, curious, and often disarmingly relatable. Reading this feels like hiring Amanda as your personal coach: you’ll walk away with frameworks and tools that make you a better partner, teammate, manager, and friend.

– Amy Shoenthal, USA Today best-selling author of The Setback Cycle

“This book powerfully describes the internalized pressure so many women feel to do it all, perfectly. Amanda Goetz gives voice to the ambition-fatigue epidemic and offers a powerful, practical framework for letting go of guilt and reclaiming space for yourself. This book is a must-read for anyone ready to stop surviving life and start enjoying it.” – Eve Rodsky, New York Times Bestselling Author of Fair Play and Find Your Unicorn Space“Amanda breaks down the ambition archetypes and programs we’ve been handed with clear, relatable language, lived experience and research, and offers a new way for modern women to rewrite what success means uniquely to them in the workplace to create more sustainable lives and careers.” – Neha Ruch, USA Today Bestselling Author of The Power Pause“Amanda is a force, and the world needs her wisdom. For anyone with big goals and even bigger responsibilities, Toxic Grit is a powerful reminder that losing yourself isn’t a prerequisite for success. Amanda delivers a candid, compelling roadmap for ambitious women who want to lead with impact and stay rooted in who they are.” – Tressie Lieberman, Global Chief Brand Officer at Starbucks, Former CMO at Yahoo“As a working mom who’s constantly juggling ambition and bedtime, Toxic Grit was the mirror I didn’t know I needed. Amanda Goetz gives language - and permission - to the many characters I play every day. This book is a permission slip to stop chasing balance and start embracing the beautiful, messy multiverse of motherhood, career, identity, and self-worth. It’s honest, actionable, and deeply validating.” – Emily Calandrelli - NASA Astronaut, Emmy-nominated TV host, #1 New York Times Bestselling Author“This book will be a game-changer for so many women. Amanda has written a raw, honest, and deeply actionable guide for those of us juggling motherhood, ambition, and relationships - often all at once. Toxic Grit is a must-read for anyone ready to challenge the hustle culture narrative and create a life that actually feels good, not just looks good. I felt seen in these pages - and I know so many others will too.” – Whitney Port, Designer, Author, TV Personality and host of With Whit podcast