Playing Well With Others

An unprecedented guidebook explaining the community aspect of the kink lifestyle. This is the first book that explains kink culture - the parties, leather bars, conferences, workshops, fetish nights, explatoriums and other gatherings that turn BDSM and leather from a bedroom predilection to a lifestyle and community. Readers will learn how to: understand etiquette in different sex communities; negotiate for play and aftercare; and most importantly, what on earth to wear!

“"The first book to completely address the most important steps in negotiating the brave new kink world how to find it, pick what part you want to explore, talk to the natives and join in the fun!" Laura Antoniou, The Marketplace series”

"Harrington and Williams adeptly offer information, wisdom and insight to anyone traversing this erotic territory... One of the first books I'll recommend to fledgling kinksters." - Race Bannon, Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun BDSM Lovemaking
"Plenty of resources tell you how to find your local BDSM community, but very few help you once you get there. This book is packed with tips about what to expect, how to communicate, and how to behave in different kinky situations." -Tristan Taormino, The Ultimate Guide to Kink
"The first book to completely address the most important steps in negotiating the brave new kink world -- how to find it, pick what part you want to explore, talk to the natives and join in the fun!" -- Laura Antoniou, The Marketplace series

Lee Harrington is a passionate spiritual and erotic educator, gender explorer, eclectic artist and published author and editor on human sexuality and spiritual experience. Along his journey he has been a brainy academic, a female adult film performer (under his previous name Bridgett Harrington), a world class sexual adventurer, an outspoken philosopher, a long-time sexuality and spirituality blogger (since 1998), a spirit worker and priest, and an award winning writer and artist. Lee's essays, podcast, videos and more are available at passionandsoul.com. A founding member of San Francisco's Crowded Fire Theater Company, Mo is the author of several solo shows, including the critically acclaimed "69Stories: One Pervert's Tale."A proud leatherwoman, performer, BDSM educator, fat fetish model and Executive Pervert, she is extremely honored to have served as Ms. San Francisco Leather 2009 and International Ms Leather 2010. Mo blogs on The Perverted Negress at Mollena.com.

Whether you're a trembling novice or a jaded expert, there's always something new to be discovered in the endlessly changing, complex and titillating world of kink. While there are plenty of other books out there that explain how to give a spanking or tie a half-hitch, Playing Well With Others is the first book that explains kink culture -- the munches, parties, leather bars, conferences, workshops, fetish nights, exploratoriums and all the other gatherings of kinksters that turn BDSM and leather from a bedroom predilection to a lifestyle and a community. You'll learn to:- Examine your own motivations, needs, wants and desires- Ease your way into established communities- Understand etiquette in different adventurous sex communities- Familiarize yourself with the many types of events available to you- Care for your relationships as you explore new territory- Negotiate for play and aftercare- Go back to the "world at large" without ruffling feathers- ...and, of course, answer the all-important question: What do you wear?!The team of Harrington and Williams offers 30-plus years of experience in diverse kink communities: top, bottom and switch; gay, bi and straight; female, male and trans; white and POC. Both former titleholders and international educators, they are an unbeatable pair of "sexual sherpas" with an inimitable voice and a great deal of wisdom. Playing Well With Others is an unprecedented and essential guidebook for anyone who wants to explore or understand the "community" aspect of the kink lifestyle.

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